House of Maybes

My client had a hard time letting go of clutter in her living room. I would ask her whether she liked something or not and she kept saying maybe. She was used to thinking that way. Maybe means 'I don't want to think about it, I'm feeling emotional attachment and it's uncomfortable and I don't want to feel that way, so I want to think about something else.'

I said, "I understand. This is very uncomfortable for you. I think on some level it's probably emotionally and physically painful. I think even when you're not thinking about theses things directly, it's also painful. It hurts you to live this way. Your life has become "maybe". We can get used to pain. People can live in pain for a long time. Lots of people do. But that doesn't mean you have to. Close your eyes...Focus on your breathing. Feel the chair your body is sitting on. Feel your lungs letting out your breath...Where do you feel tightness in your body? (She pointed to her heart). That's the tangled knot of maybe. It won't allow you to rest. It keeps you from being happy. So many maybes. They don't want to let go of you. They seem so angry and tired. So weary. What if you were to let them untangle? The knot dissolving. No need for it. Going away. Nothing left but you. You're the most important thing in this house. This home is here to serve you. You're what matters. These things in your home, they either serve you or they don't. If they don't, we let them go. Open your eyes."

She was in a peaceful place. We continued with the clutter busting. She was able to think clearly and make decisions. Her voice was soft and quiet and strong.